Welcome author, Bianca Sommerland, here with us today.
Thank you so much for having me, Mary! This blog has always been one of my ‘go to’ spots for picking books because it features my favorite style of romance. I’m so happy you agree to be part of the tour!
And it is a real pleasure to welcome you and also to know you better!!! Thank you so much Bianca for visiting my blog. It means a lot 🙂
- Why did you choose to write ménage? What intrigues you about this particular genre?
Ever since I was a kid, I’ve had a very different idea of what romance should be. I never liked stories where the heroine was forced to choose between two men she loved. I’m not talking about situation where the villain is trying to steal the damsel in distress from the hero. I have no problem with the idea of that ‘one true love’. For some people. But I don’t think we’re all built the same. I know this isn’t a popular belief, but my idea of love and romance isn’t a man trying to ‘win me’. I’d be miserable up on a shelf being shined once a month and shown off like a trophy! Lol!
Not everyone wants a relationship that’s more than two people, but some do. When they find one another, and can feel that acceptance that everyone wants…that’s what I call love. 🙂
- Tell us about your latest ménage release: what’s it all about? Where did you find the inspiration?
My latest release is OFFSIDE (The Dartmouth Cobras #4) and my inspiration came from the wonderful characters in the books. With each new book I write, I get to know each of them a bit better and then the point comes when one of the men—or the women!—demand their own book.
- Who is your favorite ménage character(s) and why?
Oh, that’s an impossible question to answer! Hmm…I could say the Cobras are my favorites, but the men from Rosemary Entwined are pretty awesome too. The thing that makes the Cobras special to me though is I can see the relationships they’re involved in working in real life. Of course, situations and personalities would have to be very similar, but I love seeing how far people can go when they really want to make it work. When this kind of life is right for them.
- In your opinion, what makes a good ménage novel?
Same thing that makes a good GLBT or BDSM novel, IMO (lots of acronyms! Lol!). You don’t have to live it, but you do have to respect it. If you’re writing a gang bang, fine, the relationships aren’t all that important. But if you’re writing a love story between three people or more you have to understand how that kind of love can work. How it’s just as beautiful as a monogamous one.
- What do you think of ménage romance in general? Do you think numbers are important in ménage stories? The more the better or maybe not?
I love ménage romance. I don’t think numbers are important so long as everyone involved feels . . . well, equally involved. For ménage sex a few more bodies can be fun, but I see romance as the relationship between people who curl up in bed once the afterglow has faded and can’t think of being anywhere else. The men or women involved having more than sex to keep them together.
- What sparks your ménage imagination to the point of writing one? Is there a particular source of inspiration for your ménage stories?
It really is all about the characters. My muse introduces them to me and I write their story as it plays out for me. 🙂 If I’m lucky I get spoilers!
- What is your favorite gender combination in ménage? More men than women? No women all men? Why?
Originally, I leaned more towards more men than women. I still do prefer that—I guess because I find it easier to picture living with two guys than with another chick! <g> I’ve never written a book with no women at all though so I’m not sure how it would go. I have read some well written ones that I enjoyed.
- Do you prefer to use straight, gay or bisexual male character? Why? What influences your choice? In your opinion, do ménage stories work better with straight, gay or bisexual characters? Please elaborate.
My big thing is the characters be open to anything that appeals to them sexually—so long as it’s legal, unless I’m writing non-con! 😉 I’m happy writing straight men, but I’ve been exploring the ‘spectrum’ lately and I really believe a lot of people fall in the middle, between gay and straight. Neither end is wrong, I hope no one thinks I’m saying that. But I think a lot of people stifle their urges because of what’s ‘acceptable’. Having male characters that are strong enough to be themselves and explore different possibilities is very liberating. I think you can be in a ménage where two people don’t interact sexually, but if there’s an attraction there as well, if it can be embraced…
Vs can be cool. But a complete triangle really appeals to me. 🙂
- In your opinion, inside a ménage with more than one man, is the woman character condemned to a passive role? Or can she be portrayed as dominant? Is she just a toy, a doll in the men’s hands, or can she assert herself as a woman and an individual?
I don’t think the woman has to be passive at all. She can be if that’s the role she wants to take, but that can change from day to day. And if she doesn’t assert herself as an individual, I don’t see what interest the men would have in her long term. If it’s BDSM and the woman has chosen to embrace a M/s relationship, then that’s a different story. But in a typical ménage relationship, even when there’s BDSM, there has to be more to their life together than who’s on top in the bedroom.
- In your opinion, can a true ménage work in real life? Why or why not?
Absolutely. But it takes a very strong foundation and lots of communication. Most of us know how rare that is, but it really shouldn’t be, because any relationship worth being in is between people who can talk to one another. Admit to their dreams, their fears. I’ve reached points in my life where I could say straight up that I don’t believe marriage or even a simple relationship can really work, but I know that’s not true. It all depends on who’s involved and what they’re willing to do to make it work.
- Do you think there is a difference between ménage sex and ménage relationship? Are the two one and the same? Or can one be without the other?
Yes, I think there’s a difference. You can have a ménage relationship where threesomes are rare—but very HOT—occasions. I don’t think it would work if all parties had to be present every time. That would mean the individual relationships weren’t as strong apart as they are together and I think that’s important.
BUT, swingers or couples just wanting to experiment can have ménage sex without have a ménage relationship. That wouldn’t work for me because I need that emotional attachment, but people have done in, had some fun, and made their relationship stronger by exploring different things together.
Some relationships fall apart in doing this though. It’s not right for everyone and I would never suggest someone try to force themselves to do something they aren’t comfortable with. What’s fun for me might be your version of hell. Again, I think communication is VERY important in any relationship. It’s no different than BDSM in if you know you won’t be happy without certain types of play taking a big role in your life, you might want to be careful getting involved with someone who is strongly against it.
- What do you think of reviews on ménage books? Do you find they capture the essence of your work? If yes, why? If no, why not? (Please feel free to include my reviews in your considerations.)
Ah . . . I’m gonna give a really quick answer for this one. Reviews are so personal to the reviewer, and I’ve learned over time that they really aren’t meant for the author. The trend I’ve often seen is some reviewers pick up ménage books without really understanding—or liking—the concept. But that happens with every genre. I’m not writing for those who believe ‘There can be only one!’ even in fiction. 😉
- Tell us about your future projects. Do you have a new ménage romance coming out soon?
Actually, I just published the fourth book in the Dartmouth Cobras series, OFFSIDE. This book is about Rebecca Bower (The older sister of the team’s star goalie), Zach Pearce who recently “Came out”, and the loveable but damaged Scott Demyan.
Here’s the blurb:
A pace ahead of the play can send you back to the start. And put everything you’ve worked for at risk.
Single mother and submissive Rebecca Bower abandoned her career as a sports reporter to become a media consultant with her brother’s hockey team. A failed marriage to a selfish man makes her wary of getting involved with another. Unfortunately, chemistry is hard to deny, and all her hormones are dancing when she gets close to the Cobra’s sniper, Scott Demyan.
Zachary Pearce ‘came out’ to the world last season to shift attention away from a teammate. And his one night with Scott Demyan had been unsettling. There could be more there, if only Scott was a different person. Instead, a night of sensual BDSM play with Becky leaves him wanting more, but she thinks he’s gay and questions his interest. It’s been a long time since a woman has attracted him both as a man and a Dom, and he’ll do everything in his power to prove she’s the only one he needs. Or wants. His one time with Scott was a mistake.
Scott might have forgotten what happened in his childhood, but the effects linger, and he specializes in drunken one-night stands…until he meets Zach and Becky and sees what he’s missing. But neither one believes Scott can be faithful. Although he’s trying hard to clean up his act to avoid getting kicked off the team, they want more from him. He’s willing to make changes, but the most important one—putting their happiness before his own—means he’ll probably end up alone.
This e-book contains material not suitable for readers under 18. It also contains scenes that some may find objectionable, including BDSM, ménage sex, bondage, anal sex, sex toys, and one man erroneously labeled as vanilla. Author strongly advises care be taken when using ladders and gym equipment in ways other than originally intended. And sex on cruise ships whenever possible. The author advises that as well.
- Where can the fans find you and find your books?
The quickest way would be to swing by my website: http://www.im-no-angel.com. You can find links to all the books, as well as nice sized samples. 🙂
- Please tell us where readers and fans can find you on the net.
When I’m hanging out online, I’m usually here: https://www.facebook.com/bianca.sommerland
Occasionally, I stop by Twitter: @BSommerland
I also have a Facebook page: I’m No Angel
- Is there anything you wish to share with the readers?
So many people have been wanting to discuss Offside (The Dartmouth Cobras #4) since it came out that I and several of my awesome betas created a group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/143748802468093/ This is for open discussion so there are spoilers, but a lot of people are joining up to make it something of a group read.
To celebrate the release of Offside, I’ve put together some awesome prizes, including either a copy of the Dartmouth Cobras Box Set (which includes the first three Cobra books for those who haven’t read them) or a copy of OFFSIDE (The Dartmouth Cobras #4). Comment for your chance to win!
For more of the Dartmouth Cobras, visit their website: www.TheDartmouthCobras.com
For the first THREE chapters of OFFSIDE (The Dartmouth Cobras #4) go to: http://www.im-no-angel.com/offside.html
Thank you so much Bianca for this so much fun interview!!!! I had a blast reading it!!
Bianca Sommerland Bio
Tell you about me? Hmm, well there’s not much to say. I love hockey and cars and my kids…not in that order of course! Lol! When I’m not writing—which isn’t often—I’m usually watching a game or a car show while working on promo. Going out with my kids is my only down time. I get to clear my head and forget everything.
As for when and why I first started writing, I guess I thought I’d get extra cookies if I was quiet for awhile—that’s how young I was. I used to bring my grandmother barely legible pages filled with tales of evil unicorns. She told me then that I would be a famous author.
I hope one day to prove her right
To find out more about me, swing by my website: www.Im-No-Angel.com