BDSM

It’s been a while sine I am playing with the idea to create a special BDSM section on my blog and decided today was this day.

I am not a person that will brag all over the place that I have a Sir or that I love to be spanked or explain in details what should remain in my opinion very private.

For one, I think nobody is interested about my private sex life except maybe when i use it as personal experience to make my point with some credibility in my review and for two because I totally dislike people who are boasting and I sure will not do that. And this is only what you will get from my personal life. 😛

However, I am not shy to talk about it… in general 😀

So lets be totally clear: I am not an expert and I would never (ever) say that this is good or bad. My always answer to newbies will be this: Find several Doms/Dommes and subs in real life (avoid the internet if possible as many wannabes/predators exist, meet them in person in munches never alone), discuss, lurk, experience one step at a time and learn. What works for some does not for the other. Everyone has kinks and fetishes even the most vanilla person (did not you know that cuddling is a fetish in the lifestyle?) and that is okay if people know the rules and protocols.

Although I totally encourage everyone to explore their sexuality. I am just saying that the BDSM lifestyle is not what you read in the romance. if you are curious, you can of course read the serious websites on the net but you can also go for example on FetLife.com, although I am warning you to be wise because not every member registered are experienced Doms/Dommes. Trust needs to be earned, remember? I encourage you to read this great article. I encourage you to find eventually a local munch and place where you can see with your own eyes what is the lifestyle and also discuss with Doms/Dommes. (ahem… you cannot miss them at all) but also submissives. You can bring hubby and wife if you only want but you will need to ask permission and follow all the netiquette required. Remember that you are guests first. Try to phone the person in charge – generally a dom/me – and ask permission to assist as well as all the rules requested. The BDSM lifestyle is the most open community regarding your kinks and fetishes. No judgement, ever. If you respect the protocol and respect the people and place, they will be very open to help you, direct you to the right person etc. Just do not come with an arrogant attitude. Humility and respect are keys to be accepted.

I guess, I just want to add that the lifestyle is not a game of only a spanking, a butt plug, a blindfold or cuffs. 50 shades of grey opened many doors regarding BDSM and I am thrilled about it. I am happy that BDSM is no longer in the closet and considered as freak.

This said. I will not become the BDSM advocate. Not my vocation. at all. Some people are vanilla and only interested to know and not experience and that is very fine. Curiosity has always been for me a sign of intelligence. I will use this section for people interested about the lifestyle. It will totally be incomplete because my blog is about menage reviews but If I find some interesting article or anything BDSM related, I will share it here.

enjoy 🙂

~Mary